This is what she wrote to me last week:
“After everything we went through, I still love you, and I still have admiration for you in all sorts of ways. Too bad that you can’t see it and that you don’t feel for me what I feel for you.”
It is true that I can’t see it. How can a man see what is in the heart of a woman? Love and admiration cannot be seen. I am blind when it comes to these kinds of things. And how can I be sure that what she says is true? She has lied to me so many times before.
I read her words but I don’t believe them. If she really has love and admiration for me, it would show, wouldn’t it? But then, not necessarily. A woman can love and admire a man without showing it.
Should I be able to see it in her eyes? I have looked into her eyes a thousand times, and I’m afraid to say that I can’t see anything. But I have noticed something interesting though. My feelings are based on my beliefs, not on anything visual.
As long as I believed that she loved and admired me, I felt it. As soon as I stopped believing it, I stopped feeling it.
Belief is so powerful!
Imagine if the cure for your mental illness was found. Not just a relief, but a cure. A permanent cure, 100% effective and guaranteed.
Imagine if the cure was presented to you, and even given to you freely! Would you take it?
Now stay with me, this is important.
Before taking it, you would probably ask yourself if you can trust the person who is offering you the cure. Next, you would surely wonder if the cure itself can be trusted.
Let’s stop right here.
You haven’t taken the cure yet.
What’s stopping you from taking it immediately?
Trust. That’s right. The thing that is preventing you from taking the cure is not the person offering it, nor the cure itself, but it’s a question of trust.
Lack of trust is what is keeping you from taking the cure at this point.
So no matter how trustworthy the giver is, as long as you don’t believe what that person is saying, you will probably never accept his cure.
The cure for your mental illness exists. I won’t tell you what it is because you would not believe me anyway. In fact, you heard it already. Nothing is stopping you from accepting the cure except your own beliefs.
The only way around this is to change your beliefs. And only you can do that.