Here is another wonderful “talking to myself” session. This one will be recorded publicly though. Perhaps to shame myself or to entertain bored readers.
I’m tired of thinking of her. It’s a waste of time. If I could change the way I think of her, that would be great. I should hypnotize myself to make me love her. That might work.
Love her? No thank you. “Like her” maybe. No, not even. Accept her. Yes, I could start there. Accept her current existence in my life. Can I do that?
Well I think I have accepted her already. I let her be, don’t I? I let her affect me too. Maybe this is what I should be working on. I should not let her affect me. Or, I have a better idea. Why not let her affect me and then transform the effect into something good!
Let’s try it. She said this yesterday, after I said to her that she already has everything: “No, I don’t have a husband who loves me.” I did not reply because I knew what it would trigger. So I just kept silent. I absorbed it.
Now the phrase is coming back to me and Oh! I could smash… never mind. There is no use smashing things. She sincerely wishes that I would love her. Why should I let it upset me?
I cannot love her simply because I can’t trust her. And that’s ok, I don’t have to trust the people I don’t trust. There is a reason why I don’t trust her. She is not trustworthy. To me anyway.
I trusted her at the beginning and she took advantage of it. She profited. It was her choice or perhaps not. Maybe she had been programmed by her family. Or she programmed herself in order to survive within her family.
Whatever it is, the issue is hers, not mine. And she refuses to look within herself. That’s why she suffers from anxiety. I can’t help her. Would my hugs help her? Perhaps. Perhaps not. I don’t know. And you know what? I don’t care whether I can help her or not. I’m trying to save myself here. I have spent enough energy for her already. The little I have left I will keep.
Sorry dear. I know you’re drowning but I can’t help you.